New Age Dating Controversy..Hang Out or Not to Hang Out

Hey there guys! How are ya?! I sure hope everything is going well in your worlds.
You thought it would be another 6 months before I blogged didn't you? AHA well ha ha look at me.  Ok, well enough shooting the breeze just wanted to get some stuff off my chest or at least post about it and open this up for discussion.  I had a discussion with some of my G+ friends regarding the topic I am about to address. This blog is just me getting my thoughts out and maybe gaining some insight from you all, if you actually decide to comment! *hint hint*

Ok so if you have read any of my previous blogs you know about my adventures in dating. Well now, let me take that back it's been around but become more IN MY FACE it's the subject of, wait for iiiiittttttttt...Dating vs. Hanging Out.

Ok now once upon a time I thought the two to be the same thing if you just met the person. 

Well apparently that is no longer the case.  Now guys apparently just want to hang out vs go on a date.  What this usually means in my recent experiences is they...

A) Want you to come "hang out" with them at their place.
B) Want to come "hang out" at your place.
C) Go out but we are dutch and essentially are new "friends" (but they expect "benefits")

Umm well ok.  Now, I get the "go out with someone with no strings attached stance" because well we are getting to know one another, GOT IT. That is perfectly fine and expected! However, I guess my issues are well frankly, "I DON'T KNOW YOU!!"

What makes you think I am just going to come over to your house?! You know how many crazy people there are these days?!... and that goes for you coming to my place too.  Also, what that says is YOU'RE LAZY and maybe even CHEAP (and that's saying a lot coming from penny pinching me) and perhaps are only after one thing and I can tell ya now...AIN'T HAPPENIN!!

Now am I a saint?  NO,  but I do have some standards. After all we just met, right?  Now as far as (C) going out and going dutch...honestly, I have no issues with that.  Because if we "hang out" and there is nothing there I don't feel obligated in the least to when I am done eating or drinking that cup of coffee, I can say thanks for your time and move on along.  There will be no benefits though, let me clarify there will be no benefits regardless. Now with this said my expectations for you would now be pretty low. 

I am by no means a gold digger etc.  However, if  someone asks me out on a date it holds a lot more weight with me. It says to me,  hey I like you I want to get to know you and I have designated this time to spend with you and I have put some effort in to thinking of a time, place and activity for us to do together.  That by no means in my mind means we are about to get serious.  It just says to me, Toya this person thinks you are worth the effort and the interest is real. Versus the lazy invitation to come "chill at their place and watch a movie." Don't get me wrong been there done and ehh learned from it.  That is whack.  I guess I am in a place of now take time and effort and not settle for that laziness at first meetings.

I have been made to feel that my thinking is "old fashioned" and "outdated" one word...Really?! Really?! In fact, is wanting a guy to put forth an effort me being old fashioned and having too high standards? Oh, man!! I'm doomed!! 

Now are there instances where you would hang out (in a group, sporting event etc)? Yes, but I am speaking to that first one on one meeting with that person since that initial meeting and exchange of phone numbers be it in person, online or whatever. I have read several articles and blogs regarding hanging out vs. dating.  Some say it's a matter of terms, other say it's all about how the guy feels about girl. 

So many hidden meanings, so much... crap frankly.  Are guys afraid to go out on a limb and date someone for fear of rejection? Are they just trying to build up a bank of booty calls...I mean what is it?  When I hang out I do so with my friends...but if I hang out in the same fashion with a new guy. Odds are he will think well geez she put no effort forth at all and I was not the center of attention when I was with her, so she must not be interested. Then my response will be wait, what? We are hanging out as friends no expectations right? So you won't mind that I send texts, or answer phones calls etc while we are hanging out right, meet you straight dressed down? Well I mean that is what I do with my friends when we hang out. So which is it? 

What do you guys think? I'm somewhat at a loss here. Is hanging out different than dating? If so, how? If you disagree or have a different understanding of the two please enlighten me. Ok, well I just wanted to get that out and see what you guys think...let me know I'll be interested in reading your comments. 

Is my thinking old fashioned and outdated?

Well talk to you guys later I hope to hear from you guys on this topic...

 

Have a good week :)

Laughter Heals So Here Are 2 Pick Me Up's!

Hey guys sup *head nod up* (see that I'm hardcore & cool)...

Ha ha looks whose back... awwwww ficky ficky yeah twice in a week!


Eh well I said I would be back! So here I am.  Now this will be a not so serious post like the last travesty that I had to address.  At any rate, the last couple weeks I have been exposed to two little gems that I must say have introduced a new level of silly humor into my life! I have been spreading the words to share in the laughter...and so far so good!! So let's get right to it shall we?

The first little gem was introduced to me in a weird late night Voxer message from one of my best buds...Lorraine. She said you have got to read this book!!! It is hilarious!!!!  So of course I asked what is it about, then I asked the name.  Well when Lorraine said the book is called... *waaaaaiiit for it* Emails from An A%#hole ,  oh yeah I was intrigued.  
Inside I thought, yup that has funny all over it BUT wait, with a title like that the title may be the best thing about it.  So, I got the book to check it out and see for myself it was really THAT funny.  

Ok so I read it in like two days, I think I would have read it one expect for the minor asthma attacks of laughter I had and massive pools of tears coming from my eyes!!

OOOHHHHHHH EEEEEMMMMMMM GGEEEEEEEEEE this book was super hilarious! It all started from a website dontevenreply.com.
HA! Now you are intrigued and want to know what the book is about...well here is a brief summary because I totally don't want to ruin it for you.

When John Lindsay launched DontEvenReply.com in June 2009, it became an instant sensation. With 60% of the book featuring entirely new material never before available on the website, Emails from an Asshole offers fans a fresh opportunity to revel in people's gullibility. Posing as a customer or seller, Lindsay responded to a variety of classified ads, making ridiculous offers to unsuspecting victims. Their responses, and the ensuing conversations, will have readers simultaneously laughing non-stop and gasping with disbelief.

Also, John has plenty more stories on his site www.dontevenreply.com which should also listed on the links on my site here. :)  You can get the book at Barnes & Noble, Amazon.com, Apple Store and the Android Play Store.  

This gets two thumbs up from me and I think you should buy or download it today! Thanks Lorraine for the recommendation!!! You rock as always!  If you guys read some of his stuff, please let me know how you like it. The very first story in the book is one of my favorites and the Paraplegic Mover.

Alright now that you are ready to make that purchase or visit your nearest torrent site to download let's move on to the next little gem of humor I was introduced to this past weekend. The game is called...wait for it...CARDS AGAINST HUMANITY.  Ever heard of it? HA, yeah me neither until my ol buddy Justin invited me to his lil kick ass birthday soiree, in which the evening began with drinks and Card Against Humanity.

Now show of hands how many your have ever heard of or played this game?

Great well Cards Against Humanity is just like this...NOT!! Ok ok well the game play is the same but the cards...oh buddy are so not PG and  Prude friendly. 

 If you are easily offended then Cards Against Humanity is not for you!

Oh wait let me back up...some people haven't play Apples to Apples either so here is a brief idea of how to play (although there are many variations). In the game you are dealt certain number of cards (usually 7 or 10). On those cards nouns or proper nouns are listed. You then have another stack of cards (green cards in Apples and Black cards in Cards Against Humanity).  Well the players take turns picking from that pile from their they read the sentence on the card and all other players then complete the sentence with the card they thing that person will pick (answers usually are creative, funny appealing to the person who has the sentence card). The person with the sentence card picks the answer they like best and which ever player put it down gets that stack..at the end of the game players with the most cards wins. Ok, that is it in a nutshell minus a few idiosyncrasies.

Well with Card Against Humanity well first of all the box is already offensive because you segregate cards the black cards and the white cards...the answers on those cards OMG hilarious! Some of them are actually normal but then the questions are crazy! You will see how crazy your friends are... 

This game was a straight up winner and a must purchase for adult gatherings!! You can purchase the game at www.CardsAgainstHumanity.com  also if you want to try it out, you can actually download the cards and print them out and play...that seems a little weird playing with slips of paper but eh to each his own!

My rating for Cards Against Humanity...Thanks Justin...buddy you sir are awesome! Anyways my rating is...

But seriously again, make these apart of your week and I guarantee you will crack up laughing and as we all know laughter heals the soul!! We cannot be serious ALL the time these two little gems blessed me with some laughter so I thought I would pass them along to you.  If you play let me know how you like.  I think there is a Card Against Humanity App or similar in the Android Playstore I'm going to try to get some friends to play if they can break away from Ruzzle lol!!

Ok well gotta go but please let me know what you think of these two!

Laters!

Our Trip to the Zoo with the Animals Not In Cages...

Hey everybody!!! Guess who!

Long time no see...I know,  I know, well here let me make up for it *sucks in a huge breath and...* HappyThankgivingMerryChristmasHappyNewYearHappyMLKdayHappyValentinesDayHappyStPatricksDayandHappyEaster... *huge exhale* Ok, got that out the way so...we good? Well hell, so what if we are not I just said happy everything I've had stuff going on and so have you (lol). Surely you can understand that?! AAATTTTTTTTTT any rate, I have thought about you guys...well things I should share with you but based on my laziness/lack of a decent laptop I just haven't. Before you ask no still no decent laptop just making due with the ol netbook :)

This past weekend was Free Day at the zoo here in Kansas City.  Sounds awesome right?! ENNNHHHHHHH WRONG!!
The trip yesterday to the Zoo with my daughter was hooooooooorrible.   The zoo was already packed which was to be expected because honestly whenever something is free people tend to flock. 







 You go expecting to see cute and cuddly stuff like this:

But we ended up seeing this, seriously:

Now the crowd was one thing, inching along and everyone wants to try and see the various animals and exhibits but to be honest that wasn't it.  *SIGH*  How can I say this, the whole experience took me through three emotions. 

Visual of the three stages I went through...

• Humor
• Sadness
• Frustration/Anger

Let me just tell you about some of what we experienced. From the time we go through the front entrance gates to the time we sat down for a snack and went to several exhibits etc. One group was prevalent black folks hangs head low oh dear sweet baby Jesus clenches fist like an old lady in church, MY PEOPLE MY PEOPLE!! we wonder why we have a such a bad name…of course not everyone was acting up but I am not exaggerating when I say about 70% were cutting up.  I mean it was everything from parents cussing out their kids, to encouraging them to climb on stuff that had no business (exhibits), chasing some of the free roaming animals. In one instance, a little boy was chasing a free roaming goose to hit it. The mother was laughing and videotaping. 
The thing is if that goose would have come after the little boy she would have been wanting to sue the zoo. 

We were riding the tram back up the entrance and a group of teenagers were walking along the path well one of them (had to be anywhere from 16-18 yrs old) decided he was going to run alongside the tram and jump on while rapping Lil Wayne. So here this lil fool is right at our row standing hold on the tram. Mini me was like o_O seriously?! So on our row was another black mother and her two twins about the same age as mini me.  She shook her head and said so ignorant! SO then the zoo officials walking on the path saw this fool hanging off and yell get on or get off you shouldn't be no there! So he decided he was going to try and crawl in on our row. I said with a serious ASS face! Oh not today you not! You will not be coming in on this row. So he said well they told me to get on or get off…I said oh well try to get on and I will push you off and the other lady said and I will help her.  So he maneuvers up a couple row and jumps in with some preteens.  Of course you know I would include an illustration :)

This is the Tram

The dude was there shown in blue and we were sitting oh about here (where the finger is pointing)

Next thing we knew he ran up and jumped on

Notice in this reenactment my face...yup this is about right

Now, by the time we go to the tram station, he gets off and was twirling his twists (hair) while … (get this no lie) sucking his thumb and grabbing his saggy pants. Now he's looking silly because his friends were way back.  This was only some of the disappointment we witnessed on our free trip to the zoo!  There were people in club attire, one lady had on a see through top boobs hanging all out, see through pants with thongs.  THERE ARE CHILDREN HERE GEEZ LOUISE!!!!! There were also a couple fights because someone cut in line! Really PEOPLE…really?!  Think I am exaggerating of course I have included a clip. It was an overall loss yesterday, however, of course it was a good teaching tool I used with my daughter. Then people get mad when they are treated liked clowns and heathens...well stop acting like it then! 

http://news.yahoo.com/video/police-break-fights-kansas-city-231819276.html

Ok well, gotta run!! TTYL I'll be back this week there is this awesome game and book I was exposed to recently that was pure comedy and fun!

Laters!!