Don't Judge Me!!!

.I have been meaning to blog about this but just have been a bit busy lately...hey what do I keep telling you about that judging me thing! STOP IT!  HA HA...well miss me? Yeah I missed you too *hugs my readers*. Ok, now that I got that mushy stuff out of the way, I wanted to tell you about a lesson that I taught my 5 yr old daughter complete with a visual aid.

Here we go...this was the night of June 25, 2011.  We were with some friends and getting some frozen yogurt at a new establishment. Which by the way was so friggin good, oh but I digress. When we left from Peachwave (name of the awesome frozen yogurt place) we crossed the street to find a man chained to a light pole with a blind fold and his mouth taped. Somewhat like this picture (but he was not a business man at least not dressed like one that night) 

At any rate as we got closer he has a sign on his around his neck that read...

"This is a silent protest of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and transsexuals, to demonstrate how this group of people have be silenced and unable to be free." 

I thought to myself hmm that's an interesting protest.  Well as I let this all sync in three things happened. 1) My 5 yr old daughter was demanding to know what was going on  2) the homeless guys behind the man began taunting and cursing at the man 3) 3 KCPD cars showed up in full force.

Well my daughter asked me, "Mommy what is that man doing?"  I just said remember when I told you we have to stand up for we believe in like when you had your issues at school? She said yes mommy...I said well that is what that man is doing.  He believes in something and he is protesting for what he feels is right.  She said oooooooh ok, she said do you think its right. I said what he believes?  I said well sweetie,  I believe that we have a right to protest what we believe in.  I said and what he is doing is very brave so never be afraid to stand up! 

Well after I explained that to her then we have Tom, Dick and Harry the homeless guys heckling the silent protester.  Yelling at him, calling him names telling him how wrong he is for his beliefs/lifestyle... well people, I have to be honest...this frankly pissed me off!  This blog is not about gay rights etc...but I was pissed off because you know that whole judgement thing I joke about, where here it was live and in color.  

They kept going and my reaction was an instant ... followed by me yelling..

"Really, really you going to yell and tell this man how wrong he is, like your lives have turned our right (I know I was wrong for that but geez).  Ain't that a bout a b&^$!, as soon as he uncuffs himself you'll ask him for a dollar.  So don't judge anyone! You hate when folks look down on you for being homeless." 
 Oh the nerve of some people... Next up we have 3 cops cars...my thought here again was is this really necessary...6 cops for one guy who has been apparently chained to this pole for hours.  They were ready to taze and take him in. I really felt it to be unnecessary what happened to the right of assembly and protest.  The man was clearly not bothering anyone.

One thing that this incident made me reflect on is something that my daughter said.  She said "ok mom, so he is different?"  I said "yes sweetie he is different...", before I could say anything else she said" but thats ok because God made and loves us all."

All I could do was smile...because as the bible says the truth comes out of the mouths of babes. God's Love, Grace and Mercy knows no boundaries.   I am not saying I am in support or against any thing.What I am saying is that we are all unique we are all God's children and one sin is no greater than another.  It is easy to judge someone or show prejudice and not even realize it, why because we are all sinners and we all do it...ALL OF US.  However, let's try to remember to love one another as God loves us in all our wretchedness.  We do alot of things displeasing to God but guess what he loves us anyway undeserving and all.Why? because he is awesome.

So blog ya later but one image I want to leave you with is this..  

Christ didn't just die for one group of people He died for us all, we are all God's children.  He paid the price for our sins with his blood.  Jesus paid it all and all to him we owe! So he is the only one worthy of judging us.  Remember when you point a finger at someone you have three more point back at you.  Also, the methods in which you judge someone, so will you be judged.  So just remember to Love one another accept differences. They are that persons cross to bare not yours so why are you so bothered by it (and this is not just on sexual orientation, its on everything)?  I''m just saying....and if there are things not right in your eyes of what you see it in the bible then you know what  rest assured that God doesn't need your help in his judgments.  He will be the judge of us all, so let him do his job and you do you.  Sound fair...thought so...K? Well blog ya later homies :)

I Would Much Rather Rip Out My Toenails Vs. Dating Again...Life After Break Up or Divorce

Weeelllll.. you like many Americans, scratch that like many people in the world have just gotten out of a long term relationship or marriage...

Well, I sympathize with you...it's especially bad when the other party has wronged you in some way...I know.. there,there it sucks, I know trust me but join the club we have t-shirts...

Well the one thing I can suggest is to listen and down load the song "I'll Pray For You" by Jaron and the Long Road home (YouTube It). It is quite theraputic...tee hee trust me. Once you've done that and are actively dealing with your anger then guess what time it is? You guessed it it's time to move on. Let's face it who wants to be alone for the rest of your life unless your like 92 and know your days are numbered. Ok, that was just wrong...moving on...

Ok so now let's tackle some of the idiosyncrasies of dating and hell lets be honest, just finding someone to even go out with...

There, there do not fret or be scared although it is a scary dating scene out there. For some of the following reasons...

A) Because you have just a bunch of horny toads out there, male and female. Let's face it everyone is not out just to get laid. My goodness folks have some morals and self respect.

B) You have some down low criminals out there, when I meet someone I find myself whipping out my smartphone and googling them and then on to watchdog.com to ensure they are not a felon or sex offender. *please note felons need love too, but ehhh not so much mine, again just being honest*

C) They are married hell that may have been how you caught your your ex

D) They have no clue what a job is, can't hold a conversation or lets face it, they are just plain weird but not in a weird normal way, of course lol.

Those are just a few reasons but we will get through this together...from one splitee to another. =). I have been away from the dating since for about 10 years *shut up no smart comments on age.*

I asked a few of my single friends, "Hey how do you do this again?" Of course they laughed. I will go over some of the following ideas they gave me and my experiences with those. You may find it humorous but I'm sure you will be able to identify if you have tried any of these.

The Millenium Dating Tactic: Internet/Online Dating Well I have not experienced the picture to the left but many of you have. I have done some online chatting and to my chagrin been basically a waste of time. Either you get a buttload of horny toads sending you random picture of their penises (oh yeah I really want that disease), or you get just complete and utter strange birds talkin in excessive geek talk. Then when they send you a picture you see why they didn't have one up to begin. Then you either just stop talking to them or or give them one word answers till they get the hint and move on. Again, another reality check we can say beauty is on the inside but we are going to be initally attracted with our eyes.

Next up: Club/Bar Scene:

This age old method has been a total bust because you end up seeing the same ol people getting drunk out of this world. Or if your me you get gawked and followed by the ugliest dude in the place, or the cute dude who just wants to nail you. This is my least favorite of them all, I have to say this phase of my life went out in college. The main reason I hate this scene is because it never fails I end up seeing stuff like this...

*Lord help me my eyes are burning...*

Let's move to less evasive dating tactics...let's face it we are not that desperate...right?..right?! Ok then...

The Grocery Store aka Walmart for me:

We all wish there was that fine as wine man with a great smile just waiting for us on the produce aisle to strike up a conversation. Mine would go *ahem* something like this...

Handsome Man (in my head the Rock) "Oh hey there beautiful! let me get that sack of potatoes for you." Me: "Oh why thank you Mr. Handsome man at the grocery store with no ring on." Then we would laugh and progress from there.

Ok,real world what do we really see at the grocery store or Walmart...

This hot mess right here...fella's please don't come out of the house looking like this...Geez!! So we press on to a couple more avenues before we give up...

Next up: The Gym:

Most of the time, I am at the gym like the guys. Honestly, I'm focused on the task at hand, my workout. However, every now and then someone may catch my eye as I'm sure is true for you guys sometimes. Usually it ends there...I am old fashioned and will not approach a guy but if I go into the gym... I usually crack jokes and show more attention to the one that has caught my attention...*Got that ladies, dont miss that hint*

* I.e. while playing basketball talk "stuff".. say things like, while he is holding the basketball "I dont know what your going to do with that you don't know how to use it..." Trust me works everytime. Ehh then you get to talking to them and see ENNNGGHHHH not very bright so yet again we move on. *Please note yet again that would never happen if it were the Rock *wink wink call me*

Last but certainly not least...

CHURCH: The Lord's House

Ok we are not at church for dating we are there to get the Lord's word and spiritual feeding...GOT THAT. However, lets' be real yet again. How many of you ladies noticed the fine gentlemen sitting a few pews over alone? Or fella's saw that beautiful woman doing the same? Well what do you do? Hell, I don't know again being honest. I haven't found that at church not to say I wouldn't but so far all the good looking ones are married. Which yay for them right that was me before. I'll expand on this one more as it happens. Expected more in this section didn't you? Please beware though the devil is in church too. So we must be careful here as well. Ha ha sorry.

Moral of this blog is: We cannot look for, seek out and find the mate for us. We have to sit back live our lives, pray and when God is ready to bless us with that special "right" someone this time we will be ready. That special someone could be at any of the above situation or in thousands of other situations. I feel the fustration with dating lol so I chose to blog in jest about it. HEY!! who ever gets this chica *ahem The Rock call me!* Will have a good one on their hands. So stay in prayer and live your life and let Mr./Mrs. Right find you but don't waste time with Mr/Mrs Wrong, I don't care if the sex is good...you got that!!

Til next time...